Mending my soul in NYC

17 Apr

I am heading to New York in a couple of hours.

New York!!!!!!!

I could not be more excited. I have never been, but I have been planning this adventure in my mind for years.

I turned 30 at the beginning of the month, so this trip is a big “grab the world by its ass” sorta experience. My intention is to launch myself into my third decade on this planet — head first! And with impeccable style.

This trip also feels particularly poignant because my grandma passed away on Sunday. She was a beautiful woman; a gentle, humerous, kind soul. She was a strong person, but she cloaked it behind a veil of modesty and genuine servitude for those she loved. She always told me to wait before settling down. She had wonderful style. She was from Indonesia. She loved Hawaiian music. She called my grandpa her “silver fox.” I think I inherited my coyness from her.

Unfortunately I will have to miss her funeral in California because I will be on the other side of the continent in New York celebrating my 30th birthday.

Is this self-indulgent?


I feel an odd mixture of elation and deep sadness, but I believe she would have wanted it this way. I will think of her a lot during my trip because it’s a celebration of my life, but I’m realizing it’s also a celebration of her life too. I plan to have a moment of silence in a church somewhere in NYC to honour her on Friday.

Rest in peace, grandma.

You inspire me.

Pieces of you are in every woman.

For further inspiration, I’d like to share some of my favourite New York women captured on The Sartorialist. They embody a sort of elegant lightness and depth of style that could only possibly come from within.


The Sartorialist, On the Street, Doyer Street, New York

I love everything about this photo. The complexity. I am channeling it.

The Sartorialist, On the Street, Ninth Street, New York

I want to drink the light up here. And the drapery. This looks like one of my grandma’s batiks!

The Sartorialist, On the Street, Mulberry Street, New York

She is adorable. I am inspired by her casual style and upbeat demeanour. Plus she’s been shopping, and she is obviously quite happy about it.

The Sartorialist, On the Street, Rivington, New York

Love the combination of masculine, old-world style, pretty hair, and splatter paint. Also desperately want that dictionary backpack.

The Sartorialist, On the Street, Greene Street, New York

Ahh, BFFs. Adored. I will see mine in a few short hours as we board the plane for what is sure to be the trip of a lifetime. With this trip I am also celebrating her, for our friendship has fed my soul immeasurably. Without her in my life, I would be a different person.

I don’t mean to punctuate our trip on such a sombre note. There are soooo many fun things we have planned this week, it’s unbelievable!

Live music, fashion, art, theatre, sightseeing, photography, people-watching, tea in our little garden escape in Brooklyn — it’ll be insane!

We will have so much fun.

Because, of course, to please our grandmas — we wouldn’t have it any other way.


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